Friday, July 17, 2009
Three Steps Backward in the Annuals of Guided Participation
When it comes to guided participation, Steve prefers a benevolent dictatorship with Pamela in charge. He has a very hard time sticking to what he prefers and the moment Pamela senses him waffling, she runs him over with a bulldozer.
We continue to work on her desire to control him, and the lastest thing to address is iTunes. She does not want him listening to iTunes on the computer, for no good reason other than to wield power over Daddy in my opinion. We were listening to music on Steve's computer when the dragon lady emerged from her den. She started to rant, "Turn it off! X! X! X! Turn it off!"
Steve decided to placate her by playing her favorite songs: a good move if your strategy is to scaffold Pamela into accepting us listening to iTunes. I supported him by snapping my fingers and saying declarative things about the wonderful music.
After four song switches, he said, "I am tired of listening to iTunes. I am turning it off because I want to."
AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! Marshmallow man strikes again.
I fussed at him for letting Pamela win that round. He acted sheepishly and evasively about her not winning because it was his choice.
Then, he made a fatal mistake. He turned to Pamela and asked her, "Did you win or lose?"
She shot up her arms in the symbol of victory and said, "I win!"
Just now, I recorded Pamela who convincingly shared her testimony of said win (even though she is using the computer, she is cognizant enough of her victory to share this tidbit with me):Pamela 1, Dad 0 . . .
Okay, I'm over it! Deep cleansing breathes . . . calm and neutral, Tammy . . .